Kukhona izinto wena, njengomzali, ongazenza ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ilulame ngokushesha emabhampini, imihuzuko, ukwethuka nezinkinga okuvame ukuba yingxenye yokukhula.

Lezi zindlela ezikhethekile noma izindlela zokusiza, ezifakiwe ngezansi, zisebenzisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho nengane yakho. Ukuxhumana kubaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzelaneni nezingane, njengoba kunjalo kunoma isiphi isici sempilo. Izenzo ezichazwe lapha zonke zingama-assists. I-assist isenzo esilula ongasithatha nomuntu ukusiza ukudambisa ubunzima noma usize ukubhekana nobunzima.

Kunezinto eziningi ongazenza ukusiza ingane esikekile noma elinyazwe ukuwa okuncane. Uma umbuzo uthi, “Uma ingane izilimaza, wenzani ngaso leso sikhathi futhi wenzani kamuva?” Impendulo incike ekutheni usho ukuthini ngokuthi “ngaso leso sikhathi.”

Thula

Uma usho ukuthi ngasikhathi sinye, ngokushesha, impendulo ukuthi uthule! Umengabe ingane izilimaza, yeka ukukhuluma. Zama ukungasho kuwo wonke umuntu okuzungezile, “Shush! Shush! Shush!” noma “Yekani ukukhuluma!” noma “Thula!” Kufanele uthule nje. Uma abanye abantu bekhuluma bezungeza ingane elimele, ngesinye isikhathi ungamane uyihambise, kepha ungakhulumi kakhulu ngenkathi wenza lokho. Ungasiza ingane kakhulu ngokungasho lutho. Kungathatha isikhashana ukuziqeqesha ukuthi ungakhulumi lapho ingane ilimele, kepha akunzima ukwakha lo mkhuba. Ukuthula akunciphisi uthando.

Ngakho-ke ukuthula kungukuqala okufanele ukwenze, ngoba ukwenza umsindo omningi nokujaha noma ukukhuluma nomntwana olimele kungalimaza amathuba akhe okululama.

Ngakho-ke, ungakhulumi noma wenze imisindo uzungeze ingane esanda kulinyazwa. Sebenza uthule ukusiza ingane ngokunikeza noma yiluphi usizo lokuqala oludingekayo lokulimala.

Ukulingisa

Enye into ongayenza ukusiza ingane ukuzama ukulingisa ukukhala kancane. Ukulingisa ukukopisha noma ukulingisa kwezenzo zomunye umuntu nezisusa zomzimba ezibonisa imizwa yabo. Yenza ukulingisa uthule, okusho ukukopisha ukushukumisa kwengane kuphela, hhayi lokho akushoyo. Futhi wenza kanjalo ngaphandle kokukhuluma. Isibonelo, ingane ikubheka bese ihlikihla amehlo ayo. Ngakho-ke umbheka bese uhlikihla amehlo akho. Yena uthola umqondo wokuthi ukhona nokuxhumana naye futhi uzophuma ngaphandle kokucasuka.

Ukulingisa kuyathakazelisa kakhulu. Ungenza ukulingisa nezingane ezitimeleni ezingaphansi komhlaba nangamabhasi nasezitolo nakwezinye izitolo njalo njalo. Ake sithi ubona ingane encane, encane kakhulu. Iyamamatheka, nawe uyamamatheka ubuyela kuye. Noma kwenzeka uqaphele ukuthi ubimbela ikhala lakhe kuwe. Ngakho-ke ubimbela ikhala lakho kuye ngendlela efanayo. Yena uba nentshisekelo kakhulu ngoba uyabona ukuthi unokuxhumana naye.

“Kwenzeke kuphi?”

I-assist engcono kakhulu kwengane elimele noma ecasukile ukumane ubuze ukuthi “Kwenzeke kuphi?” bese kuthi, emva kwalokho, umbuze, “Uphi manje?” Lapho ubuza le mibuzo, kufanele unikeze ingane ukuthi ikhombe indawo isikhathi ngasinye lapho iphendula. Lokhu kusiza kungasiza ekuphiliseni imihuzuko eminingi ebuhlungu ezinganeni ngokushesha okukhulu.

Ungahlukisa imibuzo ngokuya ngezimo. Ithi ingane ikutshela ukuthi yona ilimaze idolo. Ungabuza, “Uyilimaze kuphi?” Bese uthi “Ukuphi manje?” Noma “Uwele kuphi?” Futhi “Ukuphi manje?” Phinda imibuzo, omunye emva komunye, kuze kube yilapho ingane isiqeda ukucasuka.

“Ngitshele Ngakho”

Ungamane ubuze ingane elimele, “Kwenzekeni? Ngitshele ngakho.” Ngemuva kwalokho ake ingane ikutshele ngokwenzekile. Lapho eqeda ukukutshela, mcele ukuthi aphinde futhi akutshele.

Ungayidlulisa kaninginingi ingane ize ihleke noma ijabule ngakho.

I-Locational Assist

Okunye kokusiza okulula ukunika i-Locational Assist A Locational Assist lwenziwa ngokuqondisa kabusha ukunakwa komuntu endaweni ebuhlungu yomzimba wakhe noma ukucasuka kwakhe endaweni eseduze kwakhe.

Yisho ukuthi ufuna ukusiza ingane ebinobunzima ebihluleka ukubuthola noma ukubuchaza. Ingane inobuhlungu kodwa ayikwazi ukusho ukuthi bukuphi. Akazi ukuthi kwenzekeni kuye. Yena uzwa kabi nje.

Tshela ingane ukuthi uzokwenza i-Locational Assist bese uyichaza kafushane inqubo. Mtshele ukuthi uzothini futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyakuqonda.

Ngemuva kwalokho khomba entweni bese uthi enganeni, “Bheka leya ______ (into).”

Lapho ingane yenza lokho okucelile, yamukela lokho ngokuthi uthi “Kuhle” noma “Ngiyabonga.”

Qhubeka ngokunikeza ingane i-assist, uqondise ukunaka kwakhe izinto ezahlukahlukene eziseduze naye. Isibonelo, kungaba umnyango, isihlalo noma ithoyizi.

Qiniseka ukuthi umemukela njalo lapho enza lokho ocele ukuba akwenze. Isibonelo, uthi, “Bheka lesiyana isihlahla.” Ubheka isihlahla bese uyabona ukuthi wenze njalo. Umvuma ngokuthi “Ngiyabonga.” Bese umtshela ukuthi “Bheka lesiyana isakhiwo.” Ubheka leso sakhiwo bese uyabona ukuthi yena ukwenzile lokho bese wena uthi “Kuhle.” Bese uthi kuye, “Bheka kulowo mgwaqo.” Yena ubheka kulowo mgwaqo bese wena uyabona ukuthi ukwenzile lokho futhi uyamvuma ngokuthi “Kuhle.” Bese umtshela ukuthi “Abheke loluya tshani.” Yena uyakwenza bese ubone ukuthi ukwenzile bese uyamvuma ngento enjengo-“Kuhle kakhulu.” Njalo lapho umtshela ukuthi abheke okuthile, kufanele ukhombe leyo nto.

Gcina lokhu kuze kube yilapho izinhlungu zomntwana zincipha futhi eseqaphile. Lapho lokho kwenzeka, ungaqeda i-assist. Tshela ingane, “Ukuphela kwe-assist.”

I-Locational Assist ilula kakhulu ukulunikeza. Kungenziwa lapho ingane ilimala okuthile noma igula noma inento ethile emenza azizwe egula noma ebuhlungu engeke ikuchaze kalula.

Ukwenza I-Locational Assist kungasiza ingane kakhulu.

I-Directional Assist

I-Directional assist inhle kakhulu nasezinganeni. Kulolu sizo, ingane ikhomba futhi ikhombise indlela. Ukuze wenze lokhu kusiza, ingane kufanele okungenani ibe neminyaka emibili nengxenye. Wena ubuza umbuzo, “Kuphi (bese usho into evamile, efana netafula)?” Bese futhi “Siphi isitulo?” Futhi “Uphi umama?” Njalo njalo. Ukwenza lokhu kusiza enganeni kuyasebenza kakhulu.

Lokhu kusiza ungakwenza futhi njengengxenye yokufundisa ingane ulimi. Ngokushesha angafunda amagama azo zonke izinto ezisegumbini ngokwenza lokhu. Uyabuza, “Likuphi itafula?” Bese uthi, “Lokho kuyitafula, khona lapho. Manje, liphi itafula? Kulungile, naliyana itafula. Kulungile.”

Ngemuva kwalokho ungathatha enye into noma ingxenye yesikhala esikuzungezile bese ubuza, “Kuphi phansi? Yilapho phansi.”

Lapho wenza lokhu usiza nengane, ngemuva kwesikhashana uzokubuza, “Likuphi itafula?” futhi “Kuphi phansi?” njalonjalo. Ungakunaki. Vele uqhubeke futhi ulandele izicelo zakhe. Lokho kuyamjabulisa naye.

Ukubhekana Nosizi

Uma ingane isosizini (izizwa idabukisa kakhulu, ikhala, njll.), Ukumvumela nje ukuthi akhale aze aphume kukho kuvame ukwanela. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma usondelene naye futhi uyazi ukuthi angathembela kuwe ukuze athole ukusekelwa nosizo.

Uma umbuza ngokwenzekile futhi angaphenduli, ungagcizeleli noma ucele ukuthi akutshele. Futhi ungazami ukuvimba ingane ukuba ikhale ngokumtshela ukuthi angakhali.

Akakhale. Yilokho okufanele umenzele. Ungazami ukumjabulisa. Akakhale. Myeke akhale aze ekugcineni abone ukuthi wena ukhona.

Uma uqala ukukhuluma nengane ekhalayo, ungamenza ngokuzuma athukuthele kakhulu futhi aziphathe ngendlela engalawuleki noma uzothuka noma avele aziphonse yena nxazonke. Uzokwenza izinto ezahlukahlukene. Ufuna nje ukuthi uyeke ukukhuluma naye.

Uyakhala ngoba ulahlekelwe okuthile. Kukhona okulahlekile lapho, ngandlela thile. Futhi manje, wena, nemibuzo yakho, uzama ukuthola okuthile kuye. Ufuna ukuthi asho okuthile.

Uma ezizwa kabi futhi ekhala, ngoba elahlekelwe okuthile, wazi kangcono kunokuba asho okuthile kuwe, ngoba ecabanga ukuthi yena uzolahlekelwa okuningi. Ngakho-ke uma uphoqa ukuxhumana naye, angakhathazeka. Kepha, uma usebenzisa ukuxhumana okuhle nokunobumnene ukumenza aqaphele iqiniso lokuthi akaphelelwe abantu abazokhuluma naye, wakha ibhalansi. Uyabona ukuthi ukhona, ukhuluma naye, nokuthi awulindelanga ukuba aphendule.

Uma ukwenza lokhu ngobumnene futhi ungakhulumi okuningi, uzovele abazise ubukhona bakho. Yena uzoma, ame ukukhala, futhi uzophumula ngoba esebonile ukuthi wena ukhona.

Okunye ongakwenza ukuthatha ithoyizi elincane noma okuthile kwalolu hlobo ulubeke esandleni sakhe. Ungamnika cishe noma yini. Uyokwenqaba ekuqaleni. Kungani enqaba? Ngaye, akukho lapho, yilokho kuphela. Uyasaba ukuthi uzokhuluma naye. Kepha, ngokuzumayo, uzokuthatha lokho okufaka ezandleni zakhe bese ethi, “Hawu, kahle. Lokhu kulungile.”

Angase abe ngumphikisi omncane lapho umnika okuthile. Wake wayithengela yini ingane yakho isigaxa se-ayisikhilimu? Wena umbone ekhala futhi wamnikeza ikhonco le-ayisikhilimu. Wakhala kancane futhi kungenzeka ukuthi mhlawumbe ukukhathazeka okuncane, wabe esenza sengathi akanandaba no-ayisikhilimu futhi ekugcineni, lapho efika kuwo, lapho, wayedla u-ayisikhilimu futhi eqalaza futhi ezizwa elungile.

Okunye ongakwenza ukuze usize ingane yikho ukuheha ukunaka kwakhe ngokwenza lokho naye akwenzayo. Isibonelo, ingane encane ilele phansi, izwa kabuhlungu futhi ikhala futhi ngeke ikuphendule. Ungalala phansi uqale phansi ukukhala. Kwesinye isikhathi ungamane ulala phansi phansi esimweni esifanayo nengane ekuso futhi ingane izozwa ikhululekile kakhudlwana. Kungazwakala kuyinqaba, kepha ulala phansi nje ingane nayo iyeke ukukhala. Ingane izizwa ingcono ngoba ulapho futhi iqala nje ukukhuluma nawe. Kepha uma lokho kungasebenzi, ungaqala nokukhala.

Masithi ingane ilele lapho futhi ithi-loo-hoo-hoo-hoo-hoo bese ulala lapho nawe uthi i-boo-hoo-hoo-hoo-hoo. Ingane ingasho nokusho ukuthi, “Uyini wonke lo msindo? Kwenzekani lapha?” Futhi uzokuqaphela. Kumane kuyindlela yokuheha ukunakwa. Lapho uthola ukunakwa kwengane kugxile kancane engxenyeni ethile yendawo ezungezile, leso isinyathelo sokuqala sokuxhumana.

Njengesinye isibonelo, ingane kungenzeka ukuthi izizwa kabi. Angase azwe sengathi impilo inamabhuthi asindayo futhi kumanje asehamba phezu kwakhe. Ingane izizwa isabeka bese ithi “sniff-sniff.” Ngakho-ke nawe wenza imisindo efanayo ethi “sniff-sniff.” Uma wenza lokhu, ingane izokubheka bese iphinda ibuke.

Into elandelayo uyazi, ingane izophinda izame lokhu futhi ithi “Sniff.” Ngakho-ke nawe uthi “Sniff.”

Futhi-ke ingane izojabula.

Enye indlela yokusiza ingane ekhalayo ukwenza ukuthi ingane yenze ihaba izinyembezi zayo. Nasi isibonelo sendlela eyodwa umzali ayisingatha ngayo indodakazi yakhe ekhalayo. Ungene ekhala ngoba efuna okuthile ngakho-ke umzali wathi, “Gee, kuhle kakhulu. Ake sibheke ukuthi ungaphinde ukwenze yini.” Wabuya wakhala futhi wabe esembheka emamatheka. Futhi wathi, “Kuhle kakhulu.” Wacabanga kanjalo. Lokho kwaba ukuphela kwezinyembezi.

Indlela elula yalokhu isebenza ngisho nasenganeni: umane uvume okwenziwa usana. Ingane encane ilele emgibeni wayo, iyakhala, iyakhala, iyakhala, ikhala futhi abantu beza ngakuyona bethi, “Shush, shush, kulungile sithandwa, akekho umuntu ohambayo futhi akekho umuntu ozokushiya,” njll. Kepha i-Scientologist ikhuphukela kulowo mgibe futhi anikeze ingane ukuvunywa okuhle, ethi kuye “Kuhle! Kulungile!” Futhi ingane iyeka ukukhala. Kungani eyeka? Ngoba, ngamazwi amaningi, i-Scientologist ithi, “Ngikuzwile ukhala, ngiyazi ukuthi wenzani, ulele lapho uyakhala.” Yikuvuma okusebenzile—ukwazisa umuntu ukuthi umzwile.

Njengesibonelo esihlekisayo sokuvuma ingane encane ngokuthi yenzani, yake yakhona le ngane encane, eyayilele emgibeni wayo futhi ibikhala, ikhala, ikhala, ikhala, ikhala. I-Scientologist weza eceleni komgibe wathi “Sawubona!” Wabe esethi, “Lala endaweni yakho.” “Ngiyabonga.” “Lala emgibeni wakho.” “Ngiyabonga.” “Lala emgibeni wakho.” Yilokho okwakwenziwa yile ngane, ngakho-ke yabubula ngokubabaza okukhulu yabe isithula ukukhala. Kulula. I-Scientologist imnike okuthile ukuthi akwazi ngempela ukukwenza ngempumelelo.

Ngakho-ke indlela yokusiza ingane esosizini ukuthi umane ube khona lapho ngaye futhi umkhiphe osizini lwakhe ngokuxhumana. Uma ungamenza ukuthi axhumane, yena uzophuma ekukhathazekeni kwakhe.

Ukubeka Ngokufingqiwe

Amaphuzu aphambili ekubhekaneni nokukhathazeka kwengane noma ukulimala yile:

1. Ungasho lutho futhi ungenzi umsindo ukuzungeza nengane elimele.
2. Vumela ingane ikhale, uma lokho kubonakala kwanele.
3. Nikeza ingane usizo ukuze isizakale ilulame ngokushesha ekulimaleni noma ekucasukeni.